Being in relationship is not easy it requires efforts, feelings to carry that relation successfully. People today get into any relationship in so much hurry that they don’t see the future of the relation and their capability to carry the relation. If the decision of being in relation is not been taken with maturity it creates mess up’s in relation and anyone among the two comes with a conclusion of ending up. Worst is when they both equally love each other and wants to be with each other but are not able to tolerate the stress of being in relation. When distance arises it’s only than when they realize whether it was good in being in relation or not, whether they truly loved each other or not. What was there which went missing in the relation? The important question is Will they be able to start over again with someone else? If answer to this question, is ‘no’ than it is far sure that they want to be with each other. The next that needs to have an answer is how to stop the break up?

Maturity, understanding, patience, compromises, adjustments, communication all these factors are the base to create a strong relation and a strong bond between the two. People have a perception that relationships do not need concerns and special attention to it as both the individual know each other and have the mentality that the other will understand if they are not able to meet, talk, communicate etc. But this is wrong, it is like taking one another for granted and when either of the two looses the patience to understand and reacts he/she decides to end up rather than communicating. Running from the situation won’t do any good, one should think about the situation should think what’s better being together or being apart? If the answer is being together is good than just search the solution of the problems, talk to one another, give time to the relation, how can they be more intimate in sharing. All this is enough to stop a break up.

Carrying a relationship requires utmost care from both the individuals, understanding one another, and no doubts from either of the side. It’s always better to avoid misunderstandings and personal egos in any relation to carry on that relation successfully.

If anyone understands these requirements of relation it will make it much easier for him/her for getting ex back together. The first condition for this is to understand the feeling of yours, what exactly you wish, what’s making you think that way, why only him/her. The situations, the reasons that made you people separate earlier.  And how can you overcome those situations and reasons if you seriously want him/her back. Everything just depends on the willingness of your heart.

After deciding of getting ex back together, you must assure his/her willingness to carry the relation again with a new beginning. This assurance is a compulsion as you can’t force him/her to be in relation again. His/her feelings are needed to start the things again but in a better way. These feelings should be from one’s heart as feelings can’t be created and no one can make anyone fall in love with him/her.

Starting a relation requires lots of patience, sacrifices, compromises from your side, as until and unless you are prepared to keep patience, to make sacrifice and compromise, your ex won’t realize your eagerness to begin everything again. Keep communicating with your ex and try to understand what as per him imperfections of the relation were? Try to understand those imperfections and their reasons, if the imperfections from both the side make him/her understand that. Don’t take every blame on you it will create a scene like you are in great need of that relation. Show you want the relation to begin again because it’s your wish not your need, wish and need are two different things.

It must be kept in mind that there should not be any pleading for getting the ex back, as it will hurt your self respect somewhere. Moreover your ex can take you for granted and can use your feelings to hurt you only. An understanding of feelings from his/her side is required in must. Forceful act from your side can make things worst for the relation as by he/she would never like to come back. Make him/her think about the decision of yours, ask for the willingness, see the possibility in relation again, if there is any possibility than just do your best for getting ex back together. If he/she is yours he/she will surely be back if not just remember there was not any possibility.

If you skip these steps and jump immediately into the murky waters of your troubled relationshp, you are at high risk for going under. That’s why it’s so important to do all you can to stabilize yourself before you get in over your head.

Before you confront core relationship issues, first follow these two steps to increase your chances of success:

1. Commit to being okay no matter what happens.

Make yourself a promise that you’re going to take good care of yourself and be okay no matter what happens in your relationship. If your happiness absolutely depends on your partner being a part of your life, then you’ll feel fearful and powerless. As a result, you’ll be more likely to engage in ineffective behaviors such as begging and pleading. The more this happens, the less your partner is to want to stay in the relationship. Why is this?

One reason is that you will be perceived as emotionally needy and dependent. Whatever someone else does for you will never be enough because you’ll always want more from that person—more time, more love, more concern, more of everything. Your partner can sense this and will be afraid of being consumed by your never-ending demands for attention and care.

Another reason is that it’s too heavy of a burden to feel totally responsible for another person’s happiness. Most people want to run the other way when that’s the case. A partner who does try to be everything to the other person will eventually feel resentment and anger at being put in such a demanding position. And any sense of playfulness and fun, which is so vital to an enduring relationship, will be snuffed out.

By showing respect for yourself and belief in your ability to thrive whether in a relationship or not, you’ll be coming from a place of empowerment and strength. These attritubes attract others and engender respect, making you a more desirable partner.

2.Commit to putting more fun in your life even when you’re feeling miserable.

Don’t wait until your relationship is perfect to plan fun activities for yourself. Sign up for a community class to learn about kayaking, gourmet cooking, or drumming. Make a list of places in your town or a nearby one that you’d like to visit. Branch out, learn new skills, and broaden your world.

When you’re active and having fun, you’ll be happier. An extra benefit will be that you’ll also appear more attractive to your partner. Individuals who are happy have a natural sex appeal that makes them desirable and draws others to them. When you’re living life with gusto and a sense of adventure, irregardless of the state of your relationship, your partner is more likely to want to spend time with you.

One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to wait and see what happens in your relationship before you take steps to create a more satisfying life. After all, would you rather spend time with someone who is miserable and uhappy or with someone who is doing interesting, fun things and enjoying life? Enthusiasm and a sense of fun are powerful aphrodisiacs that attract others like a magnet.

The more centered, balanced, and happy you are, the more you increase the odds that you’ll be able to create a happy, healthy relationship. by Nancy Wasson