Archive for July, 2009

How to stop a break up and save the relation?

Friday, July 31st, 2009

When one really wants to be in any relationship and it’s on the stage of ending, how to stop a break up than? Well it’s difficult to change the decision of other if he/she has reasons to end up, it can be tough to convince but can never be impossible. What actually requires in convincing is the reason to start again and being in relationship, true feelings, and mutual acceptance in the matter. Many a time’s people end up just because they think that they are not made for each other. They actually run from each other at that point and start avoiding one another. If either of the one has true feeling for the other he/she will question himself/herself how to stop the break up? And will search for every possible solution.

Being in relationship is not easy it requires efforts, feelings to carry that relation successfully. People today get into any relationship in so much hurry that they don’t see the future of the relation and their capability to carry the relation. If the decision of being in relation is not been taken with maturity it creates mess up’s in relation and anyone among the two comes with a conclusion of ending up. Worst is when they both equally love each other and wants to be with each other but are not able to tolerate the stress of being in relation. When distance arises it’s only than when they realize whether it was good in being in relation or not, whether they truly loved each other or not. What was there which went missing in the relation? The important question is Will they be able to start over again with someone else? If answer to this question, is ‘no’ than it is far sure that they want to be with each other. The next that needs to have an answer is how to stop the break up?

Maturity, understanding, patience, compromises, adjustments, communication all these factors are the base to create a strong relation and a strong bond between the two. People have a perception that relationships do not need concerns and special attention to it as both the individual know each other and have the mentality that the other will understand if they are not able to meet, talk, communicate etc. But this is wrong, it is like taking one another for granted and when either of the two looses the patience to understand and reacts he/she decides to end up rather than communicating. Running from the situation won’t do any good, one should think about the situation should think what’s better being together or being apart? If the answer is being together is good than just search the solution of the problems, talk to one another, give time to the relation, how can they be more intimate in sharing. All this is enough to stop a break up.

Carrying a relationship requires utmost care from both the individuals, understanding one another, and no doubts from either of the side. It’s always better to avoid misunderstandings and personal egos in any relation to carry on that relation successfully.

Getting ex back together can be difficult but not impossible

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009

Getting ex back together can be difficult but not impossible; it just requires some efforts to be put to begin again. A relation can take years long to strengthen itself and can just take few seconds or minutes to destroy itself. It depends on the individual possessing the relation to save it or to take it for granted. Every relation requires communication, compromises from both the sides, understanding for one another and above all dedication towards the relation.

If anyone understands these requirements of relation it will make it much easier for him/her for getting ex back together. The first condition for this is to understand the feeling of yours, what exactly you wish, what’s making you think that way, why only him/her. The situations, the reasons that made you people separate earlier.  And how can you overcome those situations and reasons if you seriously want him/her back. Everything just depends on the willingness of your heart.

After deciding of getting ex back together, you must assure his/her willingness to carry the relation again with a new beginning. This assurance is a compulsion as you can’t force him/her to be in relation again. His/her feelings are needed to start the things again but in a better way. These feelings should be from one’s heart as feelings can’t be created and no one can make anyone fall in love with him/her.

Starting a relation requires lots of patience, sacrifices, compromises from your side, as until and unless you are prepared to keep patience, to make sacrifice and compromise, your ex won’t realize your eagerness to begin everything again. Keep communicating with your ex and try to understand what as per him imperfections of the relation were? Try to understand those imperfections and their reasons, if the imperfections from both the side make him/her understand that. Don’t take every blame on you it will create a scene like you are in great need of that relation. Show you want the relation to begin again because it’s your wish not your need, wish and need are two different things.

It must be kept in mind that there should not be any pleading for getting the ex back, as it will hurt your self respect somewhere. Moreover your ex can take you for granted and can use your feelings to hurt you only. An understanding of feelings from his/her side is required in must. Forceful act from your side can make things worst for the relation as by he/she would never like to come back. Make him/her think about the decision of yours, ask for the willingness, see the possibility in relation again, if there is any possibility than just do your best for getting ex back together. If he/she is yours he/she will surely be back if not just remember there was not any possibility.